Children of Gender
Good morning, Transsexual dot Website! I am writing to you with an important question regarding "trans children." While I completely accept and support the rights of adult transitioners to live and dress as they please, I feel that it is not right to allow children under the age of eighteen to transgender themselves. What if they wind up regretting their transition? It's likely that they will, since children don't know what they want, right? Like, I wanted to be a dinosaur when I was five years old! How would a kid that young know what their gender is? And those hormones and surgeries they're giving to toddlers are permanent! Please tell me I am right or I will decide I do not support your right to transition either. Thank you.
I am sorry that you feel that way and that your brain works so poorly! But you simply do not understand the reality of transsexualing, particularly for the much-noted Child.
First, when a child announces themself as a member of the Gender Community, they are almost certainly not stating a Want or Opinion, but rather a deeply-known Fact. Studies of Gender Identifying have found repeatedly that the "Brain's Gender Knowledge" is innate and is often fixed from a very, very young age. Knowing that you are, for instance, a child of Girl-Spirit is not like wanting to be a reptile, but is more like knowing that you have two Arms. No child is crying themself to sleep because their body is not a Dinosaur's. Despite the now-discredited studies dreamed up by Morons in between watching Cartoons and Drooling that suggested otherwise, recent data indicates that the rate of "de-sisting" in children of Trans (rather than children who simply do not conform to Gender Role) is extremely low, and that if a child declares themself a Gender, they are almost certain to remain that Gender forever.
More Over, what you are saying about Hormone and Surgical is a Lie that you should be ashamed of yourself for repeating. Shame! You are dumb. No standards of care endorse, or would ever endorse, doing Gender Surgery on a child or giving the vaunted Hormone to a "toddling one." For a child of eight years or so, a Gender Journey consists entirely of changing one's hair style, clothing, and name. Children approaching Pubertal will often be prescribed "hormone blockings," which have been used safely on cisgenderist children for half a century and which have no permanent effect. Only at age fourteen is Child allowed access to the Hormone they desire.
I know this situation very well, because you and I are not alike, and not just because I am of average intellect and you are possibly suffering from some sort of Carbon Monoxide situation. No, I was once the much-discussed TransChild myself! I went through puberty knowing perfectly well that I was Girl, and watching my shoulders broaden, my voice deepen, and horrid Hair's sprout from my face was an experience of extrama Traumas that I would not wish on my worst enemy (the Web Master of my bitter rival Transsexual dot Org). By saying you do not wish TransChildren to have access to treatment and affirmation, you are saying that you would prefer they go through this Trauma Pain simply because you trust your own intuitions more than the lived experiences of Transes and the expertise of the entire Medicine Community. I know you were likely kicked in the head recently by a Mule or other such Burden Beast, but please try to be more sensical than this!
Transgender children should be supported no matter the case, and there is no logical evidence to do otherwise. You are very stupid.
A Thought on "Clocking"
Hi, Lily (Web Master)! I am a cissexualist woman, but am friends with a number of Transgendereds. I often hear my friends talking about how they worry that certain parts of their faces are "clocky," but I do not think I agree with them! Most of them do not get Miss Gendered at all, and the features they worry about are ones even the Cis (like myself) haveon our own. Is the whole idea of "clocking" poorly conceived?
Dear Honorary Transsexual,
Thank you for writing! To answer your question in short: yes, the idea of Clocky is not sound or reasonable, but please do not tell this to your Gender Friends, who are almost certainly Anxious about it.
One thing cisvestite friends of mine do not understand much of the time is that, by necessity, the brain-image of the Adult Transitioned Trans is distorted from how we look in Actual Life. Rather, it is like an episode of popular NBC television programme "Just Shoot Me!": similar to reality but different in some key ways. The universal experience of a transgender or CD/TS who transitions as Adult is that of a lifetime previous to their transition in which they were constantly misgendered. For myself, I lived Twenty Three long years on this ball of rocks (Earth) where every one – man, woman, nonbinary, miscellaneous, self check-out kiosk, et cetera – referred to me as "sir" or "mister." No matter how hard I try, I cannot unlearn two decade's worth of Mistaken Gendering.
And so we TG/TS/TV/CD's are prone to scrutinize our own Features much more carefully than would any cisgender person, because we remember the time when people used the wrong Pro Noun for us with regularity and we are anxious about that happening again. A cisgendered person would never worry about features of their own Face or Body Region that would send a transgender into a "Panicking Attack," because they do not have the remembered Trauma of being "clockered."
And so, please be kind to your transgendered friends! They may be annoying (as is the wont of Community Folk), but their distorted Body Imaging is coming from a difficult place.
Hello! I am a cisgendered heterosexualed woman living in Texas. I am friends with a number of Queer Folk, but I am routinely embarrassed because I do not know how to pronounce the name of their community. How do I pronounce LGBT?
Dear Texas Missus,
First, I would like to thank you for seeking out a Gender Web Site to ask your question! Many people outside this great congregation we call Trans* are not aware of proper etiquette with queries of this nature. Trans People are constantly asked all manner of questions about our Sex/Gender Issue, such as What Is The Difference Between Transgender and Neil Patrick Harris, or Are Spiders Transvestites, and it quickly becomes tiresome. It is always best to practice good “netiquette” (interNET + etiquette), as you did, and to instead seek out an answer from a Web Site such as this one. (Many questions of this sort may already be answered somewhere out there, whether on a major site or someone’s personal Web Log; try looking for Gender Web Sites on a good directory like Yahoo to see if there are already resources to be found!)
To answer your question: it is pronounced LIG-bit.
Fetish or Female?
Dear Transsexual dot Website, I live as a woman full time, and I’m medically transitioning, but other transsexual websites tell me I might just be a fetishist. Am I?
Dear Fetish Question Writer,
Unfortunately, many Web Sites on the Net that purport to give accurate and beautiful information about those who experience Gender are very outdated. Perhaps their owners are bitter that the modern Transwoman has more support than they did, or they are holding to outdated guidelines from the Harry Benjamin Association, or they may have simply moved to a place where Online access is not available and never updated their Web Site. Nonetheless, the fact is that these Web Sites reflect bigoted attitudes from previous generations, when Transpeople were not yet as accepted by society as we are now.
One of those attitudes is the Theories of Mr. Roy Blancherd, a medicine doctor who created a wildly incorrect categorization of Transfolk many years ago. Among the Tenets of Mr. Blanchette’s Doctrine is that Transwomen are “just fetishists” and are not truly Women-Spirits.
Without mincing words, this is bunkum of the HIGHEST ORDER. Mr. Blanchette knows nothing. If you find Soul-Peace from living as a woman full-time – being treated as a woman at restaurants and cyber cafés, commuting to the office park in a drab but functional blouse, and so forth – you are a woman. Fetishes are restricted to Arousal-Play by definition; this is your Soul.
I hope that this helps. Please stay strong, and Link-Back to me on your own Web Site if you have one!
Sites for Gender Men?
Good afternoon! I have spent many hours searching the Web for resources for people like me, but to no avail. Why are there no resources for men with dysphoria who are still men?
You may be interested in visiting our Sister Web Site, eggwebbsite.soy.